As we practice letting go, let’s consider the things we think we need.

Most of the time, it’s not true.

Of course, there are some real needs: food, shelter, water, clothing, affection, etc. Most of us are in the extremely fortunate position of not worrying too much about meeting those true needs.

But there are lots of other things we’ve grown accustomed to, and after awhile, we begin to rely on those things. We grow to think we need them, and that life would be unbearable without them.

And yet, this isn’t true. It’s a false belief, false needs.

Some examples:

There are many other types of false needs, but you get the idea. Start to examine your beliefs, and don’t assume they’re true.

How to Let Go of Needs

Here’s what I suggest during your daily Gratitude & Letting Go session:

  1. Explore your needs. Take a minute to think about the things you think you need. Do you need coffee? The Internet? Your smartphone? Alcohol? Cheese? All the clothes you have? Your car? Meat? TV? Books? There will be some things on this list (and others you might think of) that will make you defensive or angry — what’s wrong with books or meat? Nothing is wrong with them. The question is whether they’re real needs or not.
  2. Imagine living without one of these things. What is your reaction? Why? What true need are they fulfilling (comfort, love, control)? Can you meet this need without this thing?
  3. Imagine yourself free from the need. It’s liberating not to need things. If you have fewer needs, you have fewer burdens. Imagine being able to live without the need, and what this could mean for you.
  4. Examine your fears. The fear of living without this “need” is what stops you from letting go. How true is this fear? Can you live a day without it? Try it. See if the fear comes true.

Letting go of the need is entirely within you. Test the fear for a day, and see what happens.