In this webinar, I talk about the five mindful relationship practices that I’ve found to be most helpful, and answer some vulnerable questions in the Q&A portion of the webinar.
I’ve broken this webinar recording into two parts:
- Part I – My Talk: The five most important mindful relationship practices in my life (See notes)
- Part II – Questions & Answers: I answered some vulnerable questions about relationships during the pandemic, please watch!
Part I: Leo’s Talk (with notes)
The Problem: It’s so easy to struggle in relationships, because we can get frustrated by the other person, hurt by things they say, and then get caught up in a difficult relationship. Difficult conversations are often avoided or become unproductive.
So how do we work with all of this?
Here are some practices that I’ve been finding really important:
- See the other person as a teacher, bow to them. See them as an enlightened being.
- Don’t take anything personally. From the Four Agreements – the other person’s words & actions are about them and their beliefs, not about you. Even when it seems like it’s about you.
- See their pain, see their heart. Be with their pain or fear, open to them. Get them.
- Create structure – boundaries, imago dialog, regular dates, etc. Clear agreements, instead of expectations.
- Notice where you’re holding back. Be vulnerable. Ask for what you need.
Watch above, or here on Vimeo.
From the Four Agreements:
Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally. Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.
Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you.
Even if others lie to you, it is okay. They are lying to you because they are afraid.
If you keep this agreement, you can travel around the world with your heart completely open and no one can hurt you. You can say, “I love you,” without fear of being ridiculed or rejected. You can ask for what you need.
Part II: Questions and Answers
In the second part of the webinar, I answered a number of great questions from members, please watch!