In this webinar, I talk about an approach that helps practice the key habit skills in this program.
I’ve broken this webinar recording into two parts:
- Part I – My Talk: How to practice the fundamental habit skills (See notes)
- Part II – Questions & Answers: I answered some really great questions from some amazing people, please watch!
Part I: Leo’s Talk (with notes)
In this talk, I covered:
We often approach habit change as a series of projects to get done, and then when the project doesn’t go as well as we’d like, we feel bad about it, like we’ve done something wrong or failed.
This stems from a worldview where we’re either wrong or right. We want to do things the right way, and then feel bad when we do it the wrong way. Either we have a habit streak going and we’re good, or we are failing to show up and we’re bad.
This is not helpful, and yet it’s the context we’re all stuck in. Right and wrong. We are not brought up in a world where we have permission to be wrong, to fail, to make mistakes, to do things messily.
So the approach I suggest is this:
- Notice when you’re in the context of right & wrong, and have compassion for the wrongness you’re feeling
- Invite yourself to step outside of that context, by bringing a way of being that transcends it: play, curiosity, compassion, adventure, creativity, etc
- In these ways of being, there’s no wrongness
- Give yourself permission to experiment, to make mistakes, to do it the “wrong†way, and to learn from that
- This is the anti-fragile approach, where failed experiments are not failure but simply ways to learn and get better at these skills
- Keep coming back to the skills we’re learning — practice, not perfect — progress, not perfection
- Keep the attitude of learning, growth, curiosity, compassion
- See it as a continual deepening, rather than something you have to get right; it’s a lifelong exploration
Watch above, or here on Vimeo.
Part II: Questions and Answers
In the second part of the webinar, I answered a number of great questions from members, please watch!