In this webinar, I talk about an approach that helps practice the key habit skills in this program.
I’ve broken this webinar recording into two parts:
- Part I – My Talk: How to practice the fundamental habit skills (See notes)
- Part II – Questions & Answers: I answered some really great questions from some amazing people, please watch!
Part I: Leo’s Talk (with notes)
In this talk, I covered:
We often approach habit change as a series of projects to get done, and then when the project doesnâ€™t go as well as weâ€™d like, we feel bad about it, like weâ€™ve done something wrong or failed.
This stems from a worldview where weâ€™re either wrong or right. We want to do things the right way, and then feel bad when we do it the wrong way. Either we have a habit streak going and weâ€™re good, or we are failing to show up and weâ€™re bad.
This is not helpful, and yet itâ€™s the context weâ€™re all stuck in. Right and wrong. We are not brought up in a world where we have permission to be wrong, to fail, to make mistakes, to do things messily.
So the approach I suggest is this:
- Notice when youâ€™re in the context of right & wrong, and have compassion for the wrongness youâ€™re feeling
- Invite yourself to step outside of that context, by bringing a way of being that transcends it: play, curiosity, compassion, adventure, creativity, etc
- In these ways of being, thereâ€™s no wrongness
- Give yourself permission to experiment, to make mistakes, to do it the â€œwrongâ€ way, and to learn from that
- This is the anti-fragile approach, where failed experiments are not failure but simply ways to learn and get better at these skills
- Keep coming back to the skills weâ€™re learning â€” practice, not perfect â€” progress, not perfection
- Keep the attitude of learning, growth, curiosity, compassion
- See it as a continual deepening, rather than something you have to get right; itâ€™s a lifelong exploration
Watch above, or here on Vimeo.
Part II: Questions and Answers
In the second part of the webinar, I answered a number of great questions from members, please watch!